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Going to the doctor’s is rarely fun. For our elderly parents, it can actually be quite stressful! If it’s due to illness, my senior mom and I generally head straight home after the appointment. If McDonald’s is on the way, I might be able to talk her into going through their drive-thru to get her favorite Bacon Club Sandwich and a hot fudge Sundae, if she feels up to it. If it’s a simple and routine appointment or even less routine but not involving a cold, flu, etc., we try to add something fun, like eating out, into the mix as a bit of “sweet sugar” to ease the “medicine” of the doctor appointment.
The last few times, her energy level hasn’t been great and she hasn’t really wanted to stay and eat. (Summer heat can definitely take a toll, among other things). For those occasions, I often pick one of her favorite restaurants, call in an order, park, then run in and pick it up while she waits in the car. After that, it’s off to home we head.
It’s a little bit of extra work and sometimes, like last week, when we stopped at Mimi’s Cafe in Roseville, we get home and she heads straight to bed. That’s when I may be left wondering, “is it better to skip those extra stops? Are they more frustrating for her than encouraging?
After she got up from her nap, though, she felt much better. She headed straight for the kitchen, heated up her Mimi’s Cafe tomato basil soup, and the look on her face as she ate assured me that it is, indeed, well worth it! And I was so grateful to God for having given me the idea in the first place.
Caring for our elderly parents is definitely challenging! There’s constant second guessing ourselves, trial and error-ing things, looking for ways to encourage them (including buying them flowers at Trader Joe’s 🙂 ), and even some mistakes. But there are also plenty of sweet rewards. And those cheery smiles and thank you’s from our beloved elderly are always a delight we will treasure for years to come!
Stopping for treats after an appointment is a great idea, Kaye. Mimi’s has such yummy stuff. I’ve not eaten there in a while and now CRAVE it! Thank you! 😛
You’re an inspiration. I thankfully don’t have to care for my mom yet, but your wisdom will come in handy if/when I do. ♥
Thank you for such kind words. And I’m so sorry! I know what it’s like to crave something and not be able to enjoy it. Kinda like getting a song stuck in your head – Like remember that coke song way back when, “I’m going to teach the world to sing” or how about the Dr. Pepper songs I used to love, “Dr. Pepper, Drink Dr. Pepper.”
Soooooo, did I change the Mimi craving to a song sticking – (I wasn’t sure there was a Mimi’s near you and I didn’t want you to suffer toooooo long. 🙂 )
Have a blessed weekend dear friend,
You are to be commended for taking care of your parents. It is definitely not an easy job, as so many children do not want to be bothered with us. I pray ever day I will be blessed with good health and just go in my sleep. I do not ant to be a burden or very sick. I realize we do not have a choice, but I can hope. I will be 86 in August and so far taking care of myself and still mowing my yard.
Caring for the elderly can be very challenging, Kaye, but it also has it rewards in that you are so needed by them and will be blessed. Little treats can be so uplifting=-=Mimi’s tomato basil soup sounds delicious!
Bless you, Kaye. You are an angel!
My mom lived with us for the last 6 months of her life. One day she reminisced about her mom’s rice pudding with raisins. “Someday I’ll make it for you,” I promised her. Within a few hours I came across a recipe. I whipped up a batch and will never forget the look on her face when she saw it. There are a few regrets I have – about not asking her certain questions about her childhood – but this balances out any of them!
Thanks for visiting Joyce. I wish I was an angel but praising God He keeps me going 🙂 And I’m with you – it’s definitely a challenging season of life but full of sweet rewards. 🙂
Hi Pat, thanks for stopping by. It is definitely challenging but my parents set a great example for me when caring for both sets of their parents and other elderly relatives and I’m blessed to be able to help her and others as well. Have a blessed and beautiful week.
Thanks LV – and you are doing an AWESOME job! I am so impressed about the lawn mowing. I haven’t mowed mine in years. Not since the last time I got another nasty sinus infection due to my allergies 🙂 It’s definitely great exercise! KUDOS!!!
I am the type who loves the extra eating out reward! Hang in there, you ‘re doing a great job as caregiver!
Thanks for the sweet words of encouragement Jill 🙂
thanks for coming by.
i can’t find any dates any where…when this was posted…when comments were made…still wondering about LV
Thank you for stopping by! How wonderful that you’re so thoughtful in caring for your mom. I’m sure that she’s grateful to you.
Hi Kitty, Thank you for your sweet words of encouragement. Have a great weekend.
Hi BJ – I’m so sorry, I just spotted this. I know you have since found out all is well with our sweet bloggy friend. Have a blessed weekend. 🙂