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Oh gracious. My granddog and I had the most delightful walk this week. The Sandwich Generation issues of my life had taken a bit of a break, and we just had a really nice, relaxed little stroll. Roses seemed to be everywhere! It's been hot and the weather's been weird, so not all were in the most perfect of shape. But you know what, they were still lovely and most smelled quite delightful! I definitely enjoyed a time to "stop and smell the roses!"

The Sandwich Generation granny nanny does love to see roses on a walk

Look at this lovely pink one. Isn't it perfect for Pink Saturday? So pretty and cheery. It just made my little old heart go pitter pat! 

Just like the Sandwich Generation family - these roses have some issues but they shine forth in spite of them

I think these white flowers are Iceberg Roses. We used to have a huge bush of them. No matter how much I pruned them, within a few weeks, they be back – bigger and better than ever with such a delicate and sweet scent.  When I looked at these, I thought of all of us caregivers. Some days, we may feel a bit raggedy like these roses. But give us some time, a bit of a rest, and maybe a Pepsi 🙂 …

Even the slightly sad looking roses smelled sweet - just as we Sandwich Generation caregivers dealing with tough issues can still have a sweet attitude in the midst of chaos

And just as this rose will be bursting out with a lovely new flower soon, we'll have a burst of new energy to keep us going.

And a sweet joy for this Sandwich Generation granny nanny - more blossoms will bloom soon

It's so important for all of us in the Sandwich Generation, no matter how overwhelming the issues of our life may seem, to remember to "take care of the caregiver." Pull out one of those comforting Bible verses you love, listen to some favorite music, hug your senior parent and your grandchildren….and don't let yourself feel guilty at taking a bit of time for yourself. Caregiving is not easy. But if we take care of ourselves, as well as our carees, we can keep going. So today, do your family and yourself a sweet favor and stop and smell the roses. 🙂 

Baby Boomer and Senior Citizen News is an important part of SandwichINK for the Sandwich Generation sInteresting news for all of us boomers and seniors caring for our aging parents long distance. There is an excellent looking caregiving website, Caring From A Distance (CFAD), just to help long distance caregivers! This non-profit site, created by four people who had personally cared for family members long distance and knew how difficult it was, was a Finalist in the Best of the Web 2012 and it looks like a very helpful resource.

I just registered for the site to get a feel for what they have to offer and was very impressed. I spotted:

  • Step by step guide to help a new caregiver think through what needs to be done
  • Checklists and forms to help us organize our caregiving needs, contact information, and requirements
  • An online “folder” where you could keep these various lists and, if you would like to, you’d be able to share them with the local family members who might be helping you. (I personally would not use this – being the rather paranoid person that I can be. Or if I did, I’d use abbreviations or code and be very cautious what I wrote. Sadly, we live in a day and age where every time you open the newspaper, you read about another major company being hacked. So I do err on the side of caution.)
  • A wealth of links in their Service Directory for the US, along with some in Canada and Europe, for sites to help caregivers. They only have a few states listed so far but they mentioned that it is continually being updated.

All in all, they have some great resources and tools at their site and are well worth a Sandwich Generation caregiver’s perusal. If you visit, do let us know what you think.

Resource-full Twitter Chats for the Sandwich Generation Caregivers

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I love sharing resource-full links, articles, and chats with all of us in the Sandwich Generation as they can be so helpful to all of us caregivers. Twitter continues to be an excellent resource for those of us involved in caring for our aging parents. Last week, Michelle – @Seniors4Living and Denise – @Caregiving hosted #ElderCareChat 6/6/12 and Michelle has an excellent Recap at Seniors For Living. The topic was Complex Caregiving Conversations.

This turned out to be a very interesting Twitter chat dealing with a wide variety of topics from "when can I go home" to the opposite question, "Going into assisted living?" to the very difficult, "Do you have your advanced directives prepared."  Be sure to pop over and read through the comments along with some useful resources to save.

Resource-full Articles on Urinary Tract Infections Including Signs and Symptoms, Tests, and Treatment of a UTI

Did a lab test and discovered UTI urinary tract infection - a common problem the Sandwich Generation caregiver may have to deal withSpeaking of great resources for the Sandwich Generation caregiver, be sure to visit Bob DeMarco at Alzheimers Reading Room. He has another excellent article on UTI in the Elderly – Urinary Tract Infection, You Can Learn From My Experience. It really concerns me how often this common infection goes undiagnosed in our elderly parents, and how bad that can be! And boy, take a look at this article on a UTI in men and women at Wikipedia. The statistics of how many women get this and how often are definitely a cause for concern. And yes, as this article reminds us, men get it too. Not as much but it's still important to be aware of that fact! 

Don't forget, this nasty bug can even impact our grandkids – including those with special needs that require hospitlization! I read a very concerning article at The Telegraph, One in 12 children in hospital 'catch infections' and that included Urinary Tract Infections!

It's so important for us to familiarize ourselves with the signs and symptoms of a Urinary Tract Infection so we can take steps to deal with a UTI as soon as possible! In case you missed them, you can find my articles on this topic at:

As with so many of the Sandwich Generation issues of caring for our aging parents while raising our children or babysitting our grandchildren, being prepared is half the battle. Hopefully all these resources will help us all to be prepared for what to do if a Urinary Tract Infection strikes one of our loved ones (or ourselves)!

Happy Pink Saturday to the Sandwich Generation - a moment of smiles in the midst of caring for aging parents while still raising children or babysitting grandchildrenUrinary Tract Infections (UTI) are NOT fun, but they are, often, of importance to those of us in the Sandwich Generation, juggling multigenerational caregiving issues. In my own family, we've seen several cases of a UTI – impacting women of several different ages. And even though none of the men in our family have had one, it can happen! So it's vital for us to learn as much as we can about this nasty infection! Last week, I shared a wealth of information from the National Institute of Health (NIH) and today, I have more from them, along with another excellent resource, as well as my comments – and bolding/red-ing of points I have found especially important for our family – and maybe for yours:

Are UTIs serious? Most UTIs are not serious, but some infections can lead to serious problems, such as kidney infections. Chronic kidney infections—infections that recur or last a long time—can cause permanent damage, including kidney scars, poor kidney function, high blood pressure, and other problems. Some acute kidney infections—infections that develop suddenly—can be life threatening, especially if the bacteria enter the bloodstream, a condition called septicemia.

What are the signs and symptoms of a UTI? Symptoms of a UTI vary by age, gender, and whether a catheter is present. Among young women, UTI symptoms typically include a frequent and intense urge to urinate and a painful, burning feeling in the bladder or urethra during urination. The amount of urine may be very small. Older women and men are more likely to be tired, shaky, and weak and have muscle aches and abdominal pain. Urine may look cloudy, dark, or bloody or have a foul smell. In a person with a catheter, the only symptom may be fever that cannot be attributed to any other cause. Normally, UTIs do not cause fever if they are in the bladder. A fever may mean the infection has reached the kidneys or has penetrated the prostate. Other symptoms of a kidney infection include pain in the back or side below the ribs, nausea, and vomiting.

How are UTIs diagnosed? To find out whether a person has a UTI, the health care provider will ask about urinary symptoms and then test a sample of urine for the presence of bacteria and white blood cells, which are produced by the body to fight infection. Because bacteria can be found in the urine of healthy individuals, a UTI is diagnosed based both on symptoms and a laboratory test. The person will be asked to give a “clean catch” urine sample by washing the genital area and collecting a “midstream” sample of urine in a sterile container. This method of collecting urine helps prevent bacteria around the genital area from getting into the sample and confusing the test results. Usually, the sample is sent to a laboratory, although some health care providers’ offices are equipped to do the testing. For people with recurring infections and patients in the hospital, the urine may be cultured. The culture is performed by placing part of the urine sample in a tube or dish with a substance that encourages any bacteria present to grow. Once the bacteria have multiplied, which usually takes 1 to 3 days, they can be identified. The health care provider may also order a sensitivity test, which tests the bacteria for sensitivity to different antibiotics to see which medication is best for treating the infection.

If a person has recurrent UTIs, the health care provider may order some additional tests to determine if the person’s urinary tract is normal, including a Kidney and bladder ultrasound. Ultrasound uses a device, called a transducer, that bounces safe, painless sound waves off organs to create an image of their structure. The procedure is performed in a health care provider’s office, outpatient center, or hospital by a specially trained technician, and the images are interpreted by a radiologist—a doctor who specializes in medical imaging; anesthesia is not needed. The images can show abnormalities in the kidneys and bladder. However, this test cannot reveal all important urinary abnormalities or measure how well the kidneys work. 

There are also other, more in-depth tests, that you can read about by clicking here  and scrolling down to "How are UTIs diagnosed?"

How are UTIs treated? Most UTIs are caused by bacteria, which are treated with bacteria-fighting medications called antibiotics or antimicrobials. The choice of medication and length of treatment depend on the patient’s history and the type of bacteria causing the infection. Some antibiotics may be ruled out if a person has allergies to them. The sensitivity test takes 48 hours to complete and is especially useful in helping the health care provider select the antibiotic most likely to be effective in treating an infection. Longer treatment may be needed if the first antibiotic given is not effective.

When a UTI occurs in a healthy person with a normal, unobstructed urinary tract, the term uncomplicated is used to describe the infection. Most young women who have UTIs have uncomplicated UTIs, which can be cured with 2 or 3 days of treatment. Single-dose treatment is less effective. Longer treatment causes more side effects and is not more effective. A follow-up urinalysis helps to confirm the urinary tract is infection-free. Taking the full course of treatment is important because symptoms may disappear before the infection is fully cleared.

Complicated UTIs occur when a person—for example, a pregnant woman or a transplant patient—is weakened by another condition. A UTI is also complicated when the person has a structural or functional abnormality of the urinary tract, such as an obstructive kidney stone or prostate enlargement that squeezes the urethra. Health care providers should assume that men and boys have a complicated UTI until proven otherwise.

Severely ill patients with kidney infections may be hospitalized until they can take fluids and needed medications on their own. Kidney infections may require several weeks of antibiotic treatment. Kidney infections in adults rarely lead to kidney damage or kidney failure unless they go untreated or are associated with urinary tract obstruction.

Bladder infections are generally self-limiting, but antibiotic treatment significantly shortens the duration of symptoms. People usually feel better within a day or two of treatment. Symptoms of kidney and prostate infections last longer. Drinking lots of fluids and urinating frequently will speed healing. If needed, various medications are available to relieve the pain of a UTI. A heating pad on the back or abdomen may also help.

Recurrent Infections in Women – Health care providers may advise women who have recurrent UTIs to try one of the following treatment options:

  • Take low doses of the prescribed antibiotic daily for 6 months or longer. If taken at bedtime, the medication remains in the bladder longer and may be more effective. NIH-supported research has shown this therapy to be effective without causing serious side effects.
  • Take a single dose of an antibiotic after sexual intercourse.
  • Take a short course—2 or 3 days—of an antibiotic when symptoms appear.
  • To try to prevent an infection, health care providers may suggest women
  • drink plenty of water every day
  • urinate when the need arises and avoid resisting the urge to urinate
  • urinate after sexual intercourse
  • switch to a different method of birth control if recurring UTIs are a problem
  • Infections during Pregnancy

During pregnancy, bacterial infection of the urine—even in the absence of symptoms—can pose risks to both the mother and the baby. Some antibiotics are not safe to take during pregnancy. In selecting the best treatments, health care providers consider various factors such as the medication’s effectiveness, the stage of pregnancy, the mother’s health, and potential effects on the fetus.

Complicated Infections – Curing infections that stem from a urinary obstruction or other systemic disorder depends on finding and correcting the underlying problem, sometimes with surgery. If the root cause goes untreated, this group of patients is at risk for kidney damage. Also, such infections tend to arise from a wider range of bacteria and sometimes from more than one type of bacteria at a time.

Infections in Men – Urinary tract infections in men are often the result of an obstruction—for example, a urinary stone or enlarged prostate—or are from a catheter used during a medical procedure. The first step in treating such an infection is to identify the infecting organism and the medications to which it is sensitive.

Prostate infections—chronic bacterial prostatitis—are harder to cure because antibiotics may be unable to penetrate infected prostate tissue effectively. For this reason, men with bacterial prostatitis often need long-term treatment with a carefully selected antibiotic. UTIs in men are frequently associated with acute bacterial prostatitis, which can be life threatening if not treated urgently.

How can recurrent UTIs be prevented? Changing some daily habits may help a person prevent recurrent UTIs.

Eating, Diet, and Nutrition

  • Drinking lots of fluid can help flush bacteria from the system. Water is best. Most people should try for six to eight, 8-ounce glasses a day. A person who has kidney failure should not drink this much fluid. A health care provider should be consulted to learn how much fluid is healthy.

Urination Habits

  • A person should urinate often and when the urge arises. Bacteria can grow when urine stays in the bladder too long. Women and men should urinate shortly after sex to flush away bacteria that might have entered the urethra during sex. Drinking a glass of water will also help flush bacteria away.
  • After using the toilet, women should wipe from front to back. This step is most important after a bowel movement to keep bacteria from getting into the urethra.


  • Cotton underwear and loose-fitting clothes should be worn, so air can keep the area around the urethra dry. Tight-fitting jeans and nylon underwear should be avoided because they can trap moisture and help bacteria grow. (In other words, those great comfort clothing choices work well here, too, for our elderly parents. 🙂 )

Birth Control

  • For women, using a diaphragm or spermicide for birth control can lead to UTIs by increasing bacteria growth. A woman who has trouble with UTIs should try switching to a new form of birth control. Unlubricated condoms or spermicidal condoms increase irritation, which may help bacteria grow. Switching to lubricated condoms without spermicide or using a nonspermicidal lubricant may help prevent UTIs.

Points to Remember

Most urinary tract infections (UTIs) arise from one type of bacteria, Escherichia coli (E. coli), which normally lives in the bowel.

Symptoms of a UTI in adults may include the following:

  • a frequent and intense urge to urinate
  • a painful, burning feeling in the bladder or urethra during urination
  • feeling tired, shaky, and weak
  • muscle aches
  • abdominal pain
  • only small amounts of urine passed, despite a strong urge to urinate
  • cloudy, dark, or bloody urine or urine that has a foul smell
  • pain in the back or side below the ribs
  • nausea and vomiting
  • Fever may indicate a kidney or prostate infection.
  • Because bacteria can be found in the urine of healthy individuals, a UTI is diagnosed based both on symptoms and a laboratory test.
  • UTIs are treated with bacteria-fighting medications called antibiotics or antimicrobials.
  • (Also see list in Part 1 of this article)

For More Information

And AS ALWAYS, be sure to consult your health care provider for more information.

Another valuable resource article on the topic of a UTI – urinary tract infection – for all of us in the Sandwich Generation, even if our aging parents do not have Alzheimers Disease, – is Alzheimer's, Dealing with Bladder Infections and Urinary Incontinence, Avoiding the Urinary Tract Infection, written by Carole Larkin at Bob DeMarco's site, Alzheimer's Reading Room. I especially appreciated the info she shared that, "Urologists and certain home health companies can actually train mom how to completely empty her bladder using “Kegel” exercises and biofeedback. Learn the procedure and reinforce the training given to mom after the therapy ends." That was totally new to me and I'll be asking our own doctor about that the next time we visit the office! How about you?