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I enjoyed Mr Pig and my senior mom loved the tomato basil soup from Mimis Cafe in Roseville CA via multigenerational caregiver   smGoing to the doctor’s is rarely fun. For our elderly parents, it can actually be quite stressful! If it’s due to illness, my senior mom and I generally head straight home after the appointment. If McDonald’s is on the way, I might be able to talk her into going through their drive-thru to get her favorite Bacon Club Sandwich and a hot fudge Sundae, if she feels up to it. If it’s a simple and routine appointment or even less routine but not involving a cold, flu, etc., we try to add something fun, like eating out, into the mix as a bit of “sweet sugar” to ease the “medicine” of the doctor appointment.

The last few times, her energy level hasn’t been great and she hasn’t really wanted to stay and eat. (Summer heat can definitely take a toll, among other things). For those occasions, I often pick one of her favorite restaurants, call in an order, park,  then run in and pick it up while she waits in the car. After that, it’s off to home we head.

It’s a little bit of extra work and sometimes, like last week, when we stopped at Mimi’s Cafe in Roseville, we get home and she heads straight to bed. That’s when I may be left wondering, “is it better to skip those extra stops? Are they more frustrating for her than encouraging?

After she got up from her nap, though, she felt much better. She headed straight for the kitchen, heated up her Mimi’s Cafe tomato basil soup, and the look on her face as she ate assured me that it is, indeed, well worth it!

Caring for our elderly parents is definitely challenging! There’s constant second guessing ourselves, trial and error-ing things, and even some mistakes. But there are also plenty of sweet rewards. And those cheery smiles and thank you’s from our beloved elderly are always a delight we will treasure for years to come!


Happy Summer from Kaye Swain Christian blogger and social media specialist writing at SandwichINK for the Sandwich GenerationHow are you doing? Hot? Humid? We have the heat but not too much of the humidity. And we started getting hot over a month ago! Yowzers!  Fortunately, in this Sacramento area we also often have “delta breezes” that can cool us down a bit and I LOVE those.

I had the special treat of having all my grandkids together at one time for a big family reunion/BBQ this month and LOVED it. Of course, you know me. I also prepared up one side and down the other.  I made sure I had plenty of my usual great tools – board games, coloring pages and books, washable markers, etc. Then, at the last minute, I panicked and stocked up on things that, once I got home, I realized might be pretty babyish for most. But guess what… THOSE were the things we used. With so many kids and a not huge house, we were all spread out in front, back, and in-between. The games and coloring books never even got touched that day though they also came in handy at other times. The games with the early arrivers. The coloring books went home in the car with some of the grandkids, helping out mom and dad with a little bit of piece and quiet along their route. But my last minute goodies? They were worth their weight in gold. What were they, you ask?

Bubble wands are quite fun for grandparents and grandkids alike in or out of the Sandwich Generation multigenerational family

Fun and large bubbles made the grandchildren quite happy at our Family Reunion full of sweet memories

I was sure I would end up taking them back. But once all the kids were there, I could tell quiet times just weren’t in the cards (pun intended). So off we headed to the back yard with the bubbles and the kids had a blast with them. Just the plain ones, mind you. I’d tried the battery ones in the past and we all enjoyed them. But we’d also had some technical issues and with a big group I didn’t want to run into that. They had so much fun with all the low-tech goodies. The biggest hit (and I wish I had bought more of these) were ones that came in a long tube with a long wand. They made the most delightful and humongous bubbles.

My grandkids decorated my driveway so pretty-Kaye Swain Christian Social Media Blogger and writer for boomers seniors and grandparents

After a bit, one of my youngest grandkids got a bit tired of it and he and I headed up to the front of the house to give my driveway a lovely redecorating job. He thoroughly enjoyed a bit of aloneness with me and the cars. Then it turned into a fun magnet as one by one, more and more grandchildren popped out. I helped a couple of them make a road for the little cars and the others who had joined us just had fun drawing. In the meantime, back in the backyard, the bubbles continued and mini-badminton games had ensued. Nothing serious, just a fun time popping the birdies up in the air to each other as the dads stayed busy with the BBQ, the moms enjoyed visiting, and great-grandparents smiled away in the slightly quieter living room.

Badminton fun for grandkids at the family reunion with with Kaye Swain earlier in the week

In fact, one really nice thing about all this is that we spread out the noise keeping the noise level down a tad for their two great-grandparents. By spreading grandkids in different directions, it was easier to give them quieter visiting time with just one or two grandkids per “session.”

Naturally, I had a great time taking photos, hugging one and all often, and just treasuring the moments as I know it will probably be a long time before we are able to do this again.

If you are going to be enjoying get-togethers with your own grandkids this summer, and especially if your elderly parents will also be coming, planning ahead and having lots of different options can be a huge help. Even though we didn’t use the board games that day, several of my grandkids and I did have fun with them earlier in the week. Nothing was wasted, great family memories were forged, and even though it was still a bit loud for the great-grands, they and we all agreed a terrific time was had by all. Do you have more suggestions and tips for large family get-togethers and reunions? We’d love to hear them – either here in the comments or over at Facebook.    :)     Happy summer, y’all.


Great grandparents and great grandkids had a lovely time with Chinese Checkers with a square twist

P.S. Find some fun 4th of July jokes for the grandkids and a cool Grand Social.

P.P.S. Speaking of board games, check out this cute Chinese Checker board. We have always played with marbles so this was a first. But I have to say, I actually found it easier to use than the marbles. Though my senior mom still likes the marbles better. What do you think?



To all of us in the Sandwich Generation, juggling the many shaded issues of the Sandwich Generation, have a blessed and peaceful Holy Week…


Have a beautiful and blessed Easter from Roseville CA Christian writer and real estate agent Kaye Swain


And enjoy a beautiful and joy-filled Easter weekend!!!



P.S. If you are babysitting grandkids this week, be sure to visit my Sandwich Generation Facebook page for some fun and handy posts with activities for young and old – perfect for all of us multigenerational caregivers. :)


Happy St Patricks Day from Kaye Swain Roseville CA REALTORCan you believe how fast the year is flying. It seems like just yesterday it was Merry Christmas and here it’s already St Patricks Day week. I wanted to let you know that I’ve made a Pinterest Board for St Patricks Day Joys full of fun green foods, delightful and easy crafts for grandkids and seniors alike, and even a cute Veggie Tales video telling the true story of Patrick, a man who loved God, and made a huge impact on our world – and NOT just creating St Patricks Day. :) There are also several fun jokes and riddles – a holiday delight and tradition for me and my grandkids as well. You’ll even find another Sesame Street video centered on Danny Boy.

Plus, if you check out my Facebook page – SandwichINK For the Sandwich Generation – I’ll have various different crafts and projects popping up there throughout the day.

And be sure to tell your friends with wee ones. Hmmmm, my real estate clients have some adorables as well that I’ll be sharing this with. St Patricks Day is definitely more fun for me when it includes wee ones. How about you?

Then again, there’s plenty of fun for all of us grownups as well, including lovely tablescapes and more. And yes, you’ll find some of those there too. PLUS:

Meme and Blog Party Fun for the Sandwich Generation


Have a blessed and beautiful St Patricks Day y’all!




Happy St Patricks Day to grandparents and grandkids everywhere from Kaye Swain Roseville REALTOR






This years oscar helped make Alzheimers DIsease a bigger priority-via Kaye Swain Roseville CA REALTORJulianne Moore won Best Actress in this year’s Oscar Awards. No, I didn’t watch the show. It’s not my cup of tea. But I DO appreciate that this year’s show and one of the movies honored at the show spread important info about Alzheimer’s Disease. Carol Marak is one of my sweet online friends, who I’ve known for years as we’ve enjoyed various teaming up through blog carnivals, eldercarechats, tweets and facebook fun, and more. And she’s written an excellent article on just this topic for all of us in the Sandwich Generation and other multigenerational caregivers. Enjoy!

The Oscars Shines Light on Alzheimer’s Disease

Sooner or later we knew it would happen. Alzheimer’s disease takes center stage, and now the public sees its effects first hand. It’s about time.

My family lived through the disease with my dad. It was seven years ago, but I remember to this day how difficult it was for my family, and how little my peers knew about the disease, especially at work. It was heartbreaking to live through the stages of Alzheimer’s with my dad. He held on tight to the past, but I knew deep down memories would soon fade. And they did. The only memories my dad had, in the end, were the ones of the farm, when he was very young. He thought I was his mother, which I was in a way. And he would ask me over and over if the cows are okay. He stressed a lot about them and would ask, “Have the cows been milked? I haven’t been able to do it for months, and I’m worried.” I would gently touch his shoulders and affirm, “Oh, I just did it dad, the cows are fine.” He’d smile, and his eyes lit up in gratitude. Sweet memories.

Now, thanks to directors Wash Westmoreland and Richard Glatzer, Still Alice comes to the forefront of America. People can experience first-hand what it does to the person living with the disease and to the family. Hopefully, Still Alice will continue to shine light and bring awareness to people. It’s so hard to live through it knowing others don’t have a clue.

Since my dad’s situation, I’ve been exposed to many people living with the disease. They are lost, as Moore suggests. Maria Shriver calls Alzheimer’s a national emergency because more women in their sixties will develop the disease, twice more often than breast cancer. And since the majority of the “exploding” boomer population are in their sixties, we face economic devastation. Source: My Brain sponsored by the Alzheimer’s Association.

Caring for a Person with Alzheimer’s

If you’re caring for a loved living with the disease, remember you’re not alone and ask for help. The Alzheimer’s Association is here for you and your loved one. Use the message board to connect with other caregivers. If you can’t afford to hire a caregiver from a home care agency, try reputable online services that vet for reliable senior care services.

Alzheimer’s Facts

At least 44 million people, worldwide, live with the dementia disease. It’s a global epidemic. In the United States alone, at least 5 million are inflicted. Do what you can do to help raise awareness and inspire action. Learn the facts. Share the numbers.

  • More than 5 million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s.
  • By 2050, this number could be as high as 16 million.
  • Every 67 seconds, someone in the United States develops the disease.
  • Almost two-thirds of Americans with Alzheimer’s are women.
  • In her 60s, a woman’s estimated lifetime risk for developing Alzheimer’s is 1 in 6. For breast cancer it is 1 in 11.
  • More than 60 percent of Alzheimer’s and dementia caregivers are women.

Carol Marak is a contributor for the senior living and healthcare market. She advocates older adults and family caregivers by writing on tough topics like chronic issues, Alzheimer’s and senior care, and senior living. Find her work at AssistedLivingFacilities.org and HomeHealthcareAgencies.com and contact Carol on LinkedIn and Carol@SeniorCareQuest.com.

Mega thanks to Carol for sharing this interesting article on Alzheimer’s Disease. It’s something so many of us in the Sandwich Generation as well as many other multigenerational caregivers may face in the years to come.